More generally the definition of limit of a function $f$ at a point $a$ requires that $a$ is a limit point for the domain of $f$; see for example Rudin's book third edition definition 4.1.
When $a$ is a limit point for the domain of a function $f$, you are sure that it's always possible evaluate $f(x)$ when $x\rightarrow a$; this make well defined the expression:
\begin{equation}
\lim_{x\rightarrow a} f(x)
\end{equation}
Now remember that if $a$ is a limit point of a set $D$, it may be that $a\in D$ or not.
Many books choose to define limit for functions without the concept of a limit point of a set; so they write conditions to bypass the gap. When your book says "except possibly at $a$ itself", it simply reflects the property of a limit point of a set to belong or not to the set itself.
For the second answer: your book choose the point $a$ in an open interval in order to make possible $x\rightarrow a$ from left or right.
If you choose $a$ to be in a closed interval, it may be possible that $a$ is an end point; for example $a\in [a, b]$; but in this case you can make $x\rightarrow a$ only from right and not from left; this make the definition of "right limit" and not the definiton of limit in general.
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