Another way:
Suppose that , $X=C[0,1]$.
If the given two matrices are equivalent then, the identity map $id:(X,d^*)\to (X,d)$ defined by $id(f(t))=f(t)$ , $\forall f(t)\in X$ is continuous.
Not only that $id:(X,d)\to (X,d^*)$ by $id(f(t))=f(t)$ , $\forall f(t)\in X$ is also continuous.
We show by an example that, the identity map $id:(X,d^*)\to (X,d)$ defined by $id(f(t))=f(t)$ , $\forall f(t)\in X$ is NOT continuous.
For it, consider the functions, $f_1(t)=t^n$ & $f_2(t)=0$. Then $f_1,f_2\in X$.
Also, $d^*(f_1,f_2)=\int_0^1|f_1(t)-f_2(t)|\,dt=\int_0^1t^n\,dt=\frac{1}{n+1}\to 0$ as $n\to \infty$.
But, $$d\left(id(f_1(t),f_2(t)\right)=d(f_1(t),f_2(t))=\max_{0\le t\le 1}|f_1(t)-f_2(t)|$$
$$=\max_{0\le t\le 1}t^n=1\not\to0 $$as $n\to \infty$.
So, the identity map $id:(X,d^*)\to (X,d)$ defined by $id(f(t))=f(t)$ , $\forall f(t)\in X$ is NOT continuous.
Hence , $d$ & $d^*$ may not be equivalent.