You have the right idea about the relation in general - it is reflexive and symmetric given that equality is. However, it is also transitive - you seem to be taking transitivity as $(x,y)$ and $(z,w)$ being in $R$ implies that $(x,w)$ is as well - as in your last question, one must remove the middle element for transitivity, but it is necessary that the middle element be the same. So, this fails in the case of trying to use transitivity on $(a,a)$ and $(b,b)$ since we might see the middle elements as being $a$ and $b$ - and removing them gives $(a,b)$, but transitivity only would let us do that if $a$ and $b$ were the same (which they, in general, are not).
To be sure, we'd need something of the form $(a,b)$ and $(b,c)$ being in $R$, but not $(a,c)$ to break transitivity - and since, in this case, $a=b$ and $b=c$, as you show, it does follow that $a=c$ and hence that $(a,c)$ is in $R$.
b = b,
c = b,
aRc is false
– Hare Krishan Mar 24 '15 at 02:13