We have
$$\mathbb{E}\left[MX_j\mid M=X_i\right]
=\frac{\mathbb{E}\left[MX_j:M=X_i\right]}{\mathbb{P}\left[M=X_i\right]}$$
since $\mathbb{P}\left[M=X_i\right]>0$.
We note $\Lambda=\prod_{k\neq i}\lambda_k$, $\lambda=\sum_{1\leq k\leq n}\lambda_k$ and $\alpha=\sum_{k\neq i,j}\lambda_k$ ; we have
$$\mathbb{E}\left[MX_j:M=X_i\right]
=\mathbb{E}\left[X_iX_j\mathfrak{1}_{M=X_i}\right]
=\mathbb{E}\left[\mathbb{E}\left[X_iX_j\mathfrak{1}_{M=X_i}\mid X_i\right]\right]$$
with
$$\mathbb{E}\left[X_iX_j\mathfrak{1}_{M=X_i}\mid X_i\right]
=\Lambda\int_{\left(\mathbb{R}_+\right)^{n-1}}X_ix_j \mathfrak{1}_{M=X_i} e^{-\lambda_{1}x_1}\ldots e^{-\lambda_{i-1}x_{i-1}}e^{-\lambda_{i+1}x_{i+1}}\ldots e^{-\lambda_{n}x_n}\mathrm{d}x_{1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{i-1}\mathrm{d}x_{i+1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{n}$$
$$=\lambda_jX_i e^{-\alpha X_i}\int_{X_i\leq x_j}x_je^{-\lambda_j x_j}{d}x_{j}
=\lambda_jX_i e^{-\alpha X_i}\frac{e^{-\lambda_j X_i}}{\lambda_j^2}\left(1+\lambda_jX_i\right)
=\frac{1}{\lambda_j}X_i\left(1+\lambda_jX_i\right)e^{-\left(\alpha+\lambda_j\right) X_i}$$
so that
$$\mathbb{E}\left[MX_j:M=X_i\right]
=\frac{1}{\lambda_j}\mathbb{E}\left[X_i\left(1+\lambda_jX_i\right)e^{-\left(\alpha+\lambda_j\right) X_i}\right]
=\frac{1}{\lambda_j}\int_{x_i\geq0}x_i\left(1+\lambda_jx_i\right)e^{-\left(\alpha+\lambda_j\right) x_i}\lambda_i e^{-\lambda_i x_i}\mathrm{d}x_i$$
$$=\frac{\lambda_i}{\lambda_j}\int_{x_i\geq0}x_i\left(1+\lambda_jx_i\right)e^{-\lambda x_i} \mathrm{d}x_i
=\frac{\lambda_i}{\lambda_j}\frac{\lambda+2\lambda_j}{\lambda^3}.$$
Next, we work on the term $\mathbb{P}\left[M=X_i\right]$. We have :
$$\mathbb{P}\left[M=X_i\right]
=\mathbb{P}\left[X_i\leq X_1,\ldots X_i\leq X_n\right]
= \mathbb{E}\left[\mathbb{P}\left[X_i\leq X_1,\ldots X_i\leq X_n\mid X_1,\ldots,X_{i-1},X_{i+1},\ldots,X_n\right]\right]$$
$$=\mathbb{E}\left[\mathbb{P}\left[X_i\leq\min_{\substack{1\leq k\leq n\\k\neq i}}X_k\right]\right]
=1-\mathbb{E}\left[e^{-\lambda_i\min_{k\neq i}X_k}\right]$$
where we used the fact that $X_i$ is independant of $\sigma\left(X_k;k\neq i\right)$.
Then, we compute
$$\mathbb{E}\left[e^{-\lambda_i\min_{k\neq i}X_k}\right]
=\int_{\left(\mathbb{R_+}\right)^{n-1}}e^{-\lambda_i\min_{k\neq i}x_k}\Lambda e^{-\lambda_1 x_1}\ldots e^{-\lambda_{i-1}x_{i-1}}e^{-\lambda_{i+1}x_{i+1}}\ldots e^{-\lambda_1 x_1} \mathrm{d}x_{1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{i-1}\mathrm{d}x_{i+1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{n}$$
$$=\sum_{\substack{\ell=1\\\ell\neq i}}^{n}\Lambda\int_{\left(\mathbb{R_+}\right)^{n-1}}e^{-\lambda_ix_{\ell}} e^{-\lambda_1 x_1}\ldots e^{-\lambda_{i-1}x_{i-1}}e^{-\lambda_{i+1}x_{i+1}}\ldots e^{-\lambda_1 x_1} \mathfrak{1}_{x_{\ell}\leq x_1,\ldots x_n}\mathrm{d}x_{1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{i-1}\mathrm{d}x_{i+1}\ldots \mathrm{d}x_{n}$$
$$=\sum_{\substack{\ell=1\\\ell\neq i}}^{n}\lambda_{\ell}\int_{x_{\ell}\geq0}e^{-\left(\lambda_1+\ldots+\lambda_n\right)x_{\ell}}\mathrm{d}x_{\ell}
=\frac{1}{\lambda}\sum_{\substack{\ell=1\\\ell\neq i}}^{n}\lambda_{\ell}
=\frac{\lambda-\lambda_{i}}{\lambda}
=1-\frac{\lambda_{i}}{\lambda}.$$
Finally, we obtain
$$\mathbb{E}\left[MX_j\mid M=X_i\right]
=\frac{\lambda_i}{\lambda_j}\frac{\lambda+2\lambda_j}{\lambda^3}\frac{\lambda}{\lambda_i}
=\frac{\lambda+2\lambda_j}{\lambda_j\lambda^2}.$$
OP writes: "I have got the pdf and pmf of M". /// What is the "pdf AND pmf of M"??
– wolfies Apr 18 '15 at 17:46