For the discretization of gradient, if I set $$ \mathcal \nabla := \begin{bmatrix}1&-1&\\&1&-1\end{bmatrix},$$
then $$ \mathcal \nabla^T\mathcal\nabla := \begin{bmatrix}1&0\\-1&1\\0&-1\end{bmatrix}\begin{bmatrix}1&-1&\\&1&-1\end{bmatrix}=\begin{bmatrix}1&-1&0\\-1&2&-1\\0&-1&1\end{bmatrix}$$
It seems that $\mathcal \nabla^T\mathcal\nabla=-\Delta$, not $\mathcal \nabla^T\mathcal\nabla=\Delta$. Is this true? If yes, could you explain why it holds?