Do you know how to compute the tangents to $y=\frac{1}{4a}x^2$ by differentiation? If we take the point $(t,\frac{1}{4a}t^2)$, the tangent has equation
$$
y-\frac{1}{4a}t^2=\frac{1}{2a}t(x-t)
$$
because the derivative of $x\mapsto \frac{1}{4a}x^2$ is $x\mapsto \frac{1}{2a}x$. For $t=4a$, we get
$$
y-\frac{1}{4a}16a^2=\frac{1}{2a}4a(x-4a)
$$
that is
$$
y-4a=2x-8a
$$
or
$$
y=2x-4a
$$
Just swap $x$ with $y$ and the requested tangent will be
$$
x=2y-4a
$$
Note that swapping $x$ with $y$ is an isometry, so it preserves tangents.
Let's make another example. Suppose you want to compute the normal to the parabola at the point $(a,-2a)$. You can do it in a very similar way, by computing the normal to the parabola $y=\frac{1}{4a}x^2$ at the point $(-2a,a)$. The tangent will be
$$
y-a=\frac{1}{2a}\cdot(-2a)(x+2a)
$$
or
$$
y-a=-x-2a
$$
that is
$$
y=-x-a
$$
The normal is thus
$$
y=x-a
$$
so the required normal is
$$
x=y-a
$$
(by swapping back $x$ with $y$).