Let $\cal g$ be a Lie algebra and let $a,b,c\in \cal g$ be such that $ab=ba$ and $[a,b]=c\not =0$. Let $\mathcal h=span\ \{a,b,c\}$. How to prove that $\mathcal h$ is isomorphic to the strictly upper triangular algebra $\mathcal n(3,F)$?
Problem: If $\mathcal h\cong n(3,F)$ then $\exists a',b',c'\in \mathcal n(3,F)$ with $a'b'=b'a'$ and $[a',b']=c'$ as in $h$ But then $c'$ must equal $0$ whereas $c\in h$ is not $0$?