Here is the text from the book Topology by Munkres:
Studying equivalence relations on a set $A$ and studying partitions of $A$ are really the same thing. Given any partition $\scr D$ of $A$, there is exactly one equivalence relation on $A$ from which it is derived.
The proof is not difficult. To show that the partition $\scr D$ comes from some equivalence relation, let us define a relation $C$ on $A$ by setting $xCy$ if $x$ and $y$ belong to the same element of $\scr D$. Symmetry of $C$ is obvious; reflexivity follows from the fact that the union of the elements of $\scr D$ equals all of $A$; transitivity follows from the fact that distinct elements of $\scr D$ are disjoint. It is simple to check that the collection of equivalence classes determined by $C$ is precisely the collection $\mathscr{D}$.
To show there is only one such equivalence relation, suppose that $C_1$ and $C_2$ are two equivalence relations on $A$ that give rise to the same collection of equivalence classes $\mathscr{D}$. Given $x\in A$, we show that $yC_1 x$ if and only if $yC_2 x$, from which we conclude that $C_1=C_2$. Let $E_1$ be the equivalence class determined by $x$ relative to the relation $C_1$; let $E_2$ be the equivalence class determined by $x$ relative to the relation $C_2$. Then $E_1$ is an element of $\scr D$, so that it must equal the unique element of $D$ of $\scr D$ that contains $x$. Similarly, $E_2$ must equal $D$. Now by definition, $E_1$ consists of all $y$ such that $yC_1x$; and $E_2$ consists of all $y$ such that $yC_2x$. Since $E_1=D=E_2$, our result is proved.
The text of course proves that $yC_1x \iff yC_2x$, but why it implies $C_1 = C_2$? For example suppose elements are humans, so we can define $C_1$ for "person x and person y are in relation $C_1$ if each of them has two hands"; and, $C_2$ for "person x and person y are in relation $C_2$ if each of them has two foots". $yC_1x \iff yC_2x$ holds but $C_1 \ne C_2$?
Edit - PS - we ignore the set of people with two foots and less than two hand and with two hands and less than two foots.