I think I know what is going on but please point out my mistakes and gaps in understanding!
1 the author decomposes the partial using CHAIN RULE
$$\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial x} = \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}$$
2 the author uses the PRODUCT RULE somehow to get this?
$$\frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial x^2} = \frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial r^2}\left(\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)^2 + \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial^2 r}{\partial x^2}$$
how does he use the product rule?: I am guessing he assigns:
$$u = \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}$$ $$v = \frac{\partial r}{\partial x}$$ $$\frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial x}\right) = \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left( \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right) = u \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(v\right)+v \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(u\right)$$
$$ \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\times \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right) + \frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\times \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\right) $$
I do not understand how the author turned $$ \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\times \frac{\partial}{\partial x}\left(\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)$$
into
$$ \frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial r^2}\left(\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)^2 $$
my understanding now from reading the answers is that
$$\frac{\partial}{\partial x} \frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}= \frac{\partial^2}{\partial x \partial r } $$
$$\frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial x \partial r } = \frac{\partial}{\partial r}\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial x}$$
but $$\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial x} = \left(\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)$$
so $$\frac{\partial}{\partial r} \left(\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)$$
$$\frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial r^2}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}$$
multiplying this by the $$\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}$$ that I left out
results in $$ \frac{\partial^2 \psi}{\partial r^2}\left(\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}\right)^2 $$
could I start an infinite loop by factoring out another $$\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial x}$$ and replace it with $$\frac{\partial \psi}{\partial r}\frac{\partial r}{\partial x}$$