Theorem: Suppose $R$ is a total order on $A$ and $B \subseteq A$. Then every element of $B$ is either the smallest element of $B$ or the largest element of $B$.
"Proof": Suppose $b \in B$. Let $x$ be an arbitrary element of $B$. Since $R$ is a total order, either $bRx \lor xRb$.
1. Case: $bRx$. Since $x$ was arbitrary, we can conclude that $\forall x \in B (bRx)$, so $b$ is the smallest element of $R$.
2. Case: $xRb$. Since $x$ was arbitrary, we can conclude that $\forall x \in B (xRb)$, so $b$ is the largest element of $R$.
Thus, $b$ is either the smallest element of $B$ or the largest element of $B$. Since $b$ was arbitrary, every element of $B$ is either its smallest element or its largest element.
My counterexample: $R = \{(d,a),(d,b),(d,c),(c,a),(c,b),(b,a)\}$ For this total order $b$ is neither the largest nor the smallest element.