In section 2.5 of do Carmo, given an embedded regular surface $S\subset\mathbb R^3$, the author defines the first fundamental form $\mathrm I_p:T_pS\to \mathbb R$ as the quadratic form $\mathrm I_p(w)= \left\langle w,w \right\rangle _{\mathbb R^3}$.
In a first course on differential geometry, the lecturer gave the same definition. I really feel I'm missing the the idea here, because it seems to me $\mathrm I_p$ "does not depend on $p$" in the sense the inner product stays the same. The lecturer said the whole point of the first fundamental form is to capture the local geometry of a regular surface at a given point in an intrinsic fashion, which definitely seems like a great thing, but the very definition seems to be independent of $p$. The only dependence is through the domain, but not the geometry.
A fellow student told me the dependence is through $E,F,G$, but I don't understand: While $E,F,G$ are calculated via parametrizations of coordinate neighborhoods of $p$, they must be independent of parametrization... Their definition uses an inner product which is the same at every $p$...
What am I missing here? What's the picture I should have in mind? I think I understand this answer, which explains in what says the fundamental form allows computations without further reference to an embedding in Euclidean space, but fear I am missing something else. (My fellow student spoke with confidence.)