The question is as follows:
The curved surface of a circular cone of radius 2 sitting on the plane $z=0$ is defined vectorially as $$\underline{r}(R,\phi) = R\cos\phi\underline{\hat{\imath}} + R\sin\phi\underline{\hat{\jmath}} + (8-4R)\underline{\hat{k}}$$ Find the total force on this curved surface under the stress distribution $$\bf{T} = \begin{bmatrix} \sigma_{xx} & \sigma_{xy} & \sigma_{xz} \\ \sigma_{yx} & \sigma_{yy} & \sigma_{yz} \\ \sigma_{zx} & \sigma_{zy} & \sigma_{zz} \end{bmatrix} = \begin{bmatrix} x & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & y & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & x^2 + y^2 \end{bmatrix}$$
So far I have that the $z$ component is given as $z=8-4R$ so when $R=2$, $z=0$ as it is given and that when $R=0$, $z=8$ so that is where the peak is.
Now, because the coordinate system is cylindrical, I can see that $$\bf{T} = \begin{bmatrix} R\cos\phi & 0 & 0 \\ 0 & R\sin\phi & 0 \\ 0 & 0 & R^2 \end{bmatrix}$$ The equation we have for $z$ I think will be helpful for the integration but what I need some help with is how to find the integrand $\underline{\tau}$ because I don't know how to find the unit normal $\underline{\hat{n}}$ so that I can compute $$\underline{\tau}^{n}_{i} = \sigma_{ij}n_j$$