I've been told there exists the identity
$$\partial_\theta Y_{\ell,m}(\theta,\phi)=\frac{1}{2}e^{-i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell-m)(\ell+m+1)}Y_{\ell,m+1}-\frac{1}{2}e^{i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell+m)(\ell-m+1)}Y_{\ell,m-1},$$
but can't quite figure out the proof. If I take the derivatives of $Y_{\ell,m}$ and separately $Y_{\ell,-m}$, I pick up complex exponential factors and other things I don't want. Can anyone point me in the right direction? Here is what I have so far: $$\partial_\theta Y_{\ell,m}(\theta,\phi)=e^{-i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell-m)(\ell+m+1)}Y_{\ell,m+1}$$ which is half of it. The second half is the problem. \begin{align}\partial_\theta Y_{\ell,-m}(\theta,\phi)&=e^{-i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell+m)(\ell-m+1)}Y_{\ell,1-m}\nonumber\\ &=e^{-i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell+m)(\ell-m+1)}(-1)^{m-1} Y_{\ell,m-1}^*\\ &=-e^{-i\phi}\sqrt{(\ell+m)(\ell-m+1)}(-1)^{m} Y_{\ell,m-1}^* \end{align}
Perhaps there is another identity I'm unaware of?