This is a language problem. When you cut up the cake you have not yet "divided it by four", though you have "divided it into fourths" Dividing it into four pieces is a step you take to prepare for dividing it by four.
Here's my suggestion for your video: include pictures of your kid and three of their friends. After you cut it into four (equal) pieces, give each kid one of the slices -- that's when the dividing by four happens, and each kid has one fourth of the cake.
Now take a new cake, and cut it into eight equal pieces. At that point we've got eight eighths, which is one full cake -- we haven't "divided by four yet". Now share it equally -- that's when "divide by four" takes place. How much does each kid get? In this case it's two eights, so you can also say that one divided by four is two eighths. It's the same amount of cake for each kid, it's just cut up a bit differently, so $$\dfrac{2}{8} = \dfrac{1}{4}$$and you can explain that the same fractions can be expressed in more than one way.
And if your kid is following this just fine you can give a more complicated example. Draw one and a half cakes and share it among six kids. To do this you have to cut the full cake into four pieces, and the half cake into two pieces ("You see, a half of a half is a fourth."), and then you can share it evenly and each kid gets one quarter. You can write this for them as $1 \dfrac{1}{2} \div 6 = \dfrac{1}{4}$, which is pretty advanced math for a kid just learning fractions.
(P.S. What a nice thing to do for your kid.)