Calling
$$
\left\{
\begin{array}{rcl}
f_1(x,y) & = & x^2 + a x + b - y\\
f_2(x,y) & = & x^2 + b x + a - y\\
L& \rightarrow & p = p_1+ \lambda (p_2-p_1)
\end{array}
\right.
$$
with $p = (x,y), \ p_1 = (x_1,y_1) \ p_2 = (x_2,y_2)$ such that $f_1(p_1) = f_2(p_2) = 0$ the tangency problem can be established as:
$$
\left\{
\begin{array}{l}
f_1(p_1+\lambda(p_2-p_1)) = 0 \Rightarrow ((a + 2 x_1) (x_1 - x_2) - y_1 +
y_2)^2 -4 (x_1 - x_2)^2 (b + x_1 (a + x_1) - y_1)= 0\\
f_2(p_1+\lambda(p_2-p_1)) = 0\Rightarrow ((b + 2 x_1) (x_1 - x_2) - y_1 +
y_2)^2 -4 (x_1 - x_2)^2 (a + x_1 (b + x_1) - y_1) = 0
\end{array}
\right.
$$
because in the corresponding equations due to $f_i = \phi(x_i,y_i)\lambda^2+\psi_i(x_i,y_i)\lambda + \theta_i(x_i,y_i) = 0, \ \ \{i = 1,2\}$ the discriminant associated to the $\lambda$ solution should be null.
Now substituting $y_1 = x_1^2 + a x_1 + b$ and $ y_2 = x_2^2+b x_2 + a$ we obtain
$$
\left\{
\begin{array}{rcl}
b - (x_1 - x_2)^2 + a (x_2-1) - b x_2 & = & 0\\
b + a (x_1-1) - b x_1 + (x_1 - x_2)^2 & = & 0
\end{array}
\right.
$$
and solving for $x_1,x_2$ we get
$$
\left\{
\begin{array}{rcl}
x_1 & = & 1/4 (4 - a + b)\\
x_2 & = & 1/4 (4 + a - b)
\end{array}
\right.
$$
and the tangent line reads
$$
L\rightarrow p = \left\{\frac{1}{4} (-a+b+4),\frac{1}{16} \left(-3 a^2+2 a (b+4)+b (b+24)+16\right)\right\}+\lambda \left\{\frac{a-b}{2},\frac{1}{4} (a-b) (a+b+4)\right\}
$$
Attached a plot for $a = 2, b = -2$
