The general entries in the matrix fall into groups of $4$ that must be identical because of the palindromic symmetry. If $n$ or $m$ is odd, the entries in the central rows or columns fall into groups of $2$; and if both $n$ or $m$ are odd, the central entry forms a singleton by itself. All this depends only on $n$ and $m$, so without looking at your digits, you know how many groups of $4$ identical digits and how many groups of $2$ identical digits you need.
You can start by assigning the digits of which you have at least $4$ to the groups of $4$ entries, and then assign the digits of which you have at least $2$ left to the groups of $2$ entries. Your digit counts must all be even, except if both $m$ and $n$ are odd, in which case exactly one of your digit counts must be odd. So in your example, we can tell from your digit counts that $n$ and $m$ must be odd and that the central entry in the matrix will be a $1$. (This is assuming that you require all the available digits to be in the matrix.)