Show that for any given $3\times 3$ complex matrix $A$, there exist a $3 \times 3$ unitary matrix $U$, such that $$U^{-1}AU= \begin{pmatrix} * & 0 & * \\ * & * & 0 \\ * & 0 & * \\ \end{pmatrix} $$ It is a question in the Chinese Ph.d Entrance Exam, I think it is unusual because I never thought this kind of form before and don't know how to get start. If we replace the unitary with invertible, then the question is already solved by the answer which PSG give. But I am quite sure Jordan is not necessary with unitary.
I have an idea that we can use some $2\times 2$ unitary matrix to adjust the first principal submatrix of $A$ in order to make the second principal submatrix of $A$ into a normal matrix by changing the center entry of $A$ and then we diagonalize the second principal submatrix of $A$ and apply Schur Lemma on the first principal submatrix of $A$ to make $A$ into the form that we want.