Normally, we can diagonalize a matrix A by $A = S \Lambda S^{-1}$.
When the matrix is symmetric, we have that $A = Q \Lambda Q^{-1} = Q \Lambda Q^{T}$.
The part I'm failing to understand is: why can we just make the eigenvector matrix $S$ a set of orthonormal vectors?
Looking at the relationship $Ax = \lambda x$, if I changed the magnitude of $x$, wouldn't I then require a different $\lambda$ to satisfy the equation? Wouldn't that also have to change $\Lambda$ in the diagonalization of $A$ where $A$ is symmetric?