The idea is that $\frac{\partial}{\partial z}$ and $\frac{\partial}{\partial \bar{z}}$ are meant to be the partial derivatives relative to the (complexified) coordinate system $\{ z, \bar{z} \}$. The thing you really want to have is
- $ \frac{\partial z}{\partial z} = 1 $
- $ \frac{\partial \bar{z}}{\partial z} = 0 $
- $ \frac{\partial z}{\partial \bar{z}} = 0 $
- $ \frac{\partial \bar{z}}{\partial \bar{z}} = 1 $
Or alternatively, on the basis differential forms,
- $ \frac{\partial }{\partial z} \mathrm{d} z= 1 $
- $ \frac{\partial }{\partial z} \mathrm{d} \bar{z} = 0 $
- $ \frac{\partial }{\partial \bar{z}} \mathrm{d} z= 0 $
- $ \frac{\partial }{\partial \bar{z}} \mathrm{d} \bar{z} = 1 $
These are basically the definitions of the partial derivatives. Then you can verify that $\frac{1}{2} \left( \frac{\partial}{\partial x} - i \frac{\partial}{\partial y} \right)$ satisfies the same identities that $\frac{\partial}{\partial z}$ is required to, so they are the same operator. If you didn't already know the answer, these are linear equations so you could do linear algebra to solve for the relation between them.
Incidentally, differentials play more nicely with algebra; you have
$$ \mathrm{d}z = \mathrm{d}x + i \mathrm{d} y \qquad \qquad
\mathrm{d}\bar{z} = \mathrm{d}x - i \mathrm{d} y
$$