Notice that the integral can be rewritten as
$$\iint_D (x,y)\cdot \nabla f dA = \iint_D \nabla \left( \frac{x^2 + y^2}{2}\right) \cdot \nabla f dA$$
then use integration by parts (really the divergence theorem in higher dimensions) with $u=\nabla f$ and $dv = (x,y)$:
$$\iint_D \nabla \left( \frac{x^2 + y^2}{2}\right) \cdot \nabla f dA = \int_{\partial D} \left(\frac{x^2+y^2}{2}\right) \nabla f \cdot \mathbf{n} ds - \iint_D \left(\frac{x^2+y^2}{2}\right) \Delta f dA$$
$$ = \frac{1}{2} \int_{\partial D} \nabla f \cdot \mathbf{n} ds - \iint_D \left(\frac{x^2+y^2}{2}\right) \Delta f dA$$
We can use the divergence theorem on the first integral
$$\frac{1}{2}\iint_{D} \Delta f dA - \iint_D \left(\frac{x^2+y^2}{2}\right) \Delta f dA$$
then plug in $\Delta f = e^{-x^2-y^2}$ and convert to polar coordinates
$$\frac{1}{2}\int_0^1 \int_0^{2\pi}re^{-r^2}d\theta dr-\frac{1}{2} \int_0^1 \int_0^{2\pi} r^3e^{-r^2}d\theta dr=\pi\int_0^1 re^{-r^2}dr-\pi \int_0^1 r^3e^{-r^2}dr = \frac{\pi}{2e}$$