Here's a different approach, using the Weingarten map.
As above, since $Y$ and $X$ are parallel surfaces, their unit normals have to have the same direction at every point.
Therefore their Weingarten maps have to coincide. (The Weingarten map is the negative differential of the Gauss map.)
Let us call the Weingarten maps $L, \, \bar L$ respectively, and the principle curvatures $\kappa_i, \, \bar \kappa_i$, $i \in \{1,2\}$.
For orthonormal bases $\{\frac{\partial X}{\partial u} , \frac{\partial X}{\partial v} \}$, $\{\frac{\partial X}{\partial u} , \frac{\partial X}{\partial v} \}$ of $T_pX$, $T_{\bar p}Y$, respectively, $p \in X$, $\bar p \in Y$, the Weingarten maps satisfy the eigenvalue equations:
$$L\left(\frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i}\right) = \kappa_i \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i}, \quad i \in \{1,2\}, \, x^i \in \{u,v\} $$
$$\bar L\left(\frac{\partial Y}{\partial x^i}\right) = \bar \kappa_i \frac{\partial Y}{\partial x^i}, \quad i \in \{1,2\}, \, x^i \in \{u,v\} $$
Now we use the fact, that they are equal,
$$L \left(\frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i}\right) = \bar L \left(\frac{\partial Y}{\partial x^i}\right) = \bar \kappa_i \frac{\partial Y}{\partial x^i} = \bar \kappa_i \left( \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i} + a \frac{\partial N}{\partial x^i} \right), \quad i \in \{1,2\}, \, x^i \in \{u,v\}. $$
As mentioned above, $$ L_{ij} = - \sum_{k=1}^2 \frac{\partial N_i}{\partial x^k} \left( \frac{\partial X_k}{\partial x^j} \right)^{-1} , \, x^j, x^k \in \{u, v\}, \, i \in \{1,2\}.$$
Therefore $$ \frac{\partial N}{\partial x^i} = -\sum_{j=1}^2 L_{ij} \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^j} = - L\left(\frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i}\right) = - \kappa_i \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i}, \, x^i, x^j \in \{u, v\} \, i,j \in \{1,2\} $$
and so we can put things together:
$$ \bar \kappa_i \Big( \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i} + a \frac{\partial N}{\partial x^i} \Big) = \bar \kappa_i \left( 1 - a \kappa_i \frac{\partial X}{\partial x^i} \right) , \quad i \in \{1,2\}, \, x^i \in \{u,v\} $$
$$ \bar \kappa_i = \frac{\kappa_i}{1- a \kappa_i} $$
The mean curvature is just half the sum of the principal curvatures, the Gauss curvature their product.