Consider a bivector $A=\langle A\rangle_2$ with components $a_{ij}=\langle e_je_iA\rangle_0=-a_{ji}$ with respect to an orthonormal basis $\{e_i\}$:
$$A=\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}\,e_i\wedge e_j=\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}\,e_ie_j=\frac12\sum_{i,j}a_{ij}\,e_ie_j.$$
(The geometric product $e_ie_j$ is the same as the wedge product for $i\neq j$, and for $i=j$ we have $e_ie_i=1$ but $a_{ii}=0$. The sum on the right is $\sum_{i,j}=\sum_{i<j}+\sum_{i=j}+\sum_{i>j}$.)
In particular in $4$ dimensions,
$$A=a_{12}e_1e_2+a_{13}e_1e_3+a_{23}e_2e_3+a_{14}e_1e_4+a_{24}e_2e_4+a_{34}e_3e_4.$$
This acts on vectors $b=\langle b\rangle_1=\sum_k b_ke_k$ by
$$b\mapsto \langle Ab\rangle_1$$
$$=\left\langle\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}\,e_ie_j\sum_k b_k\,e_k\right\rangle_1$$
$$=\sum_{i<j}\sum_k a_{ij}b_k\langle e_ie_je_k\rangle_1$$
(using linearity of grade projection). Now look at the products of basis vectors. If $k=j$, then we have $e_ie_je_j=e_i=\langle e_i\rangle_1$; similarly if $k=i$, then $e_ie_je_i=-e_je_ie_i=-e_j=\langle-e_j\rangle_1$. Finally if $i,j,k$ are all different, then $e_ie_je_k=\langle e_ie_je_k\rangle_3=e_i\wedge e_j\wedge e_k$. These cases can be combined into
$$\langle e_ie_je_k\rangle_1=e_i(e_j\cdot e_k)-(e_i\cdot e_k)e_j=e_i\delta_{jk}-\delta_{ik}e_j,$$
which is a special case of the identity $\langle(a\wedge b)c\rangle_1=a(b\cdot c)-(a\cdot c)b$. So our bivector product simplifies to
$$\langle Ab\rangle_1=\sum_{i<j}\sum_k a_{ij}b_k(e_i\delta_{jk}-\delta_{ik}e_j)$$
$$=\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}b_je_i-\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}b_ie_j$$
$$=\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}b_je_i+\sum_{j>i}a_{ji}b_ie_j$$
$$=\sum_{i<j}a_{ij}b_je_i+\sum_{i>j}a_{ij}b_je_i+\sum_i a_{ii}b_ie_i\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!\!$$
$$=\sum_{i,j}a_{ij}b_je_i.$$
This is exactly the same as the product of the matrix $[a_{ij}]$ with the vector $b$.
Clearly, given either a bivector or an antisymmetric matrix with components $a_{ij}$, we can construct the other with these same components, and they give the same product with any vector.
The Hodge dual in $n$ dimensions is multiplication with the unit $n$-blade $(\pm)e_1e_2e_3\cdots e_n$. This acts on bivectors in $3$ dimensions as
$$e_3e_2e_1(a_{12}e_1e_2+a_{13}e_1e_3+a_{23}e_2e_3)=a_{23}e_1-a_{13}e_2+a_{12}e_3$$
(resulting in a vector), and in $4$ dimensions as
$$-e_1e_2e_3e_4(a_{12}e_1e_2+a_{13}e_1e_3+a_{23}e_2e_3+a_{14}e_1e_4+a_{24}e_2e_4+a_{34}e_3e_4)$$
$$=a_{34}e_1e_2-a_{24}e_1e_3+a_{14}e_2e_3+a_{23}e_1e_4-a_{13}e_2e_4+a_{12}e_3e_4$$
(resulting in another bivector).