The numbers from $1$ to $8$ are entered into the eight circles in this diagram, with the number $3$ placed as shown. In each triangle, the sum of the three numbers is the same. The sum of the four numbers which are at the corners of the central square is $20$. What is $x + y$?
$(A)\, 10\qquad (B) \,11\qquad (C) 12\\
(D)\, 13\qquad (E)\, 14$ 
Is there any method apart from trial and error to solve these types of problems? Ideally using methods a $13$ to $14$ year old high school students can do.