It's not true in general that the fourth or fifth conditions imply the first three.
For example, if $R=\mathbb{Z}_p$, the $p$-adic integers, then since $R$ is a principal ideal domain, every finitely presented $R$-module is a finite direct sum of modules of the form $R/I$, for finitely generated ideals $I$. So the fourth and fifth conditions are clearly equivalent for this $R$.
But
$$\operatorname{Ext}^1_{\mathbb{Z}_p}(\mathbb{Q}_p,\mathbb{Z}_p)
=\operatorname{Ext}^1_{\mathbb{Z}_p}(\mathbb{Q}_p,\mathbb{Z}_p/p^r\mathbb{Z}_p)=0$$
for all $r$. So $\mathbb{Q}_p$ satisfies the fourth and fifth conditions, but is not projective.
Even if $R=\mathbb{Z}$ it is consistent with $\mathsf{ZFC}$ (the usual axioms of set theory) that there is an abelian group $A$ such that $\operatorname{Ext}^1_{\mathbb{Z}}(A,\mathbb{Z})=0$ but $A$ is not free abelian, and so not projective. (The question of whether such a group exists is the Whitehead Problem.) If $A$ is such a group, then also $\operatorname{Ext}^1_{\mathbb{Z}}(A,\mathbb{Z}/m\mathbb{Z})=0$ for all $m$, so $A$ satisfies the fourth and fifth conditions but not the first three.