(Originally I had $u,v=x+y,x-y$, but after going through half the problem, I considered that $2u,2v=x+y,x-y$ would be a little more convenient.)
amanda, after your substitution, we consider $x^2+xy+y^2={1\over2}$.
Here are is a nice choice for the next substitution,
\begin{align}
2u&=x+y,\\
2v&=x-y.
\end{align}
We next consider
\begin{align}
4u^2&=x^2+y^2+2xy,\\
4v^2&=x^2+y^2-2xy.
\end{align}
To get $x^2+y^2+xy$, we need $2u^2+2v^2+(u^2-v^2)$. Thus our problem is transformed to
$$6u^2+2v^2=1.$$
Then we have parametric solutions
$$u=\sqrt{1\over6}\cos t,\ v=\sqrt{1\over2}\sin t.$$
From there, we find for instance
$$x=u+v={\cos t+\sqrt3\sin t\over\sqrt6},$$
and the rest should be straightforward.
To get the sign to match what is shown in your equations, I can think of several ways to go.
- You could simply note the symmetry in $x$ and $y$ and switch them (which suggests that if we had made the substitution $2v=y-x$ instead of $x-y$, that would have worked also).
- From $6u^2+2v^2=1$, we could have chosen $v=-\sqrt{1\over2}\sin t$.
- If we make the substitution $t=-s$, then we have $x={\cos (-s)+\sqrt3\sin (-s)\over\sqrt6}={\cos s-\sqrt3\sin s\over\sqrt6}$. Now, call it $t$ again.