Let $\alpha$ be a unit speed curve on the sphere. Then to find $h_{\alpha(t)}(\alpha'(t),\alpha'(t))$, we project $\alpha''(t)$ in the normal direction of the sphere. So $$h_{\alpha(t)}(\alpha'(t),\alpha'(t))=\frac{\langle \alpha''(t),\alpha(t)\rangle}{\langle \alpha(t),\alpha(t)\rangle}\alpha(t)= -\frac{1}{r^2}\alpha(t),$$since $\langle \alpha'(t),\alpha(t)\rangle=0$ leads to $\langle \alpha''(t),\alpha(t)\rangle = -1$ by differentiating. If $N(p)=p/r$ is the outward unit normal field along the sphere, we have shown that $$h_p(v,v)=-\frac{1}{r}N(p)$$for all unit tangent vectors $v$. Let $v$ range over an orthonormal basis of the tangent space and average $n$ copies of this to get $$H(p)=\frac{1}{n}\left(-\frac{n}{r}N(p)\right)= -\frac{1}{r}N(p)\implies \|H(p)\|=\frac{1}{r}.$$Also, adjusting the scale and polarizing, we see that $$h_p(v,w)=-\frac{1}{r}\langle v,w\rangle N(p)$$for all tangent vectors $v$ and $w$ at $p$ (no longer restricted to be unit).