The following definition and theorem are taken from J.M. Landsberg, Tensors: Geometry and Applications, Graduate Studies in Mathematics, v. 128 (p. 118)
Definition 5.1.1.1: The $join$ of two varieties $X$, $Y$ is $$ J(X,Y)=\overline{\bigcup\limits_{x\in X,\ y\in Y,\ x\ne y} \mathbb P^1_{xy}}. $$ Theorem 5.1.1.4: Joins and secant varieties of irreducible varieties are irreducible.
For the proof the author refers to p.144 of Joe Harris, Algebraic Geometry: A First Course. But this book contains the proof only for secant varieties.
I have not found any other books or papers where the statement
`` Join of two irreducible varieties is irreducible''
is formulated explicitly. And I have not found the proof.
Question 1: Where I can find the proof for joins of intersecting varieties?
Question 2: Does the statement hold over $\mathbb R$? I will appreciate any references here.
I think the point in citing Harris' book is that you can adapt the proof since $\sigma(X) = J(X,X)$.
I don't have a copy of the book in front of me, though I am fairly certain he works over the complex numbers, but I don't know if this particular statement holds over $\mathbb{R}$. I would guess not.