Clearly R is a symmetric relation.
Now for finding the set A, I don’t know the proper method to do it, but I managed to find $A=\{1,2,3,4\}$ (please let me know how to solve without trial and error)
Now, $(4,4)$ isn’t in the relation, so does that prohibit it from reflexive? I am just having a problem in the technicality of the question