We have a set of students.
$$ \{\text{Bob}, \text{John}, \text{Tom} \} $$
Scores of a exam were:
$$ \begin{align} \text{Bob} & : 5 \\ \text{John} & : 10 \\ \text{Tom} & : 10 \\ \end{align} $$
In the real life, we can sort by scores and say students are ordered.
$$\text{Bob} \le \text{John}$$ $$\text{Bob} \le \text{Tom}$$ $$\text{John} \le \text{Tom}$$ $$\text{Tom} \le \text{John}$$
But order relations are said to be antisymmetric.
$$ xRy \land yRx \Rightarrow x = y $$
In the example,
$$ \text{John} \le \text{Tom }\land \text{Tom} \le \text{John} \Rightarrow \text{John} = \text{Tom} $$
So, John and Tom must be equal, if the example is an ordered set. But it is only the scores that matches. If you compare the elements, they are different and John $\ne$ Tom.
Is it allowed to compare scores and say $\text{John} = \text{Tom}$? Can't we say that the example is an ordered set?
Adding some comment to make my question clear:
As nachosemu said, I am doing
$$ x R y \Leftrightarrow score(x) \leq score(y), \,\,\, x,y\in \{\text{Bob}, \text{John}, \text{Tom} \} $$
For this example, should I read antisymmetric relation as comparing elements:
$$ xRy \land yRx \Rightarrow x = y $$
or as $=$ in $\lt, =, \gt$:
$$ xRy \land yRx \Rightarrow score(x) = score(y) $$