If $X\sim\mathrm{Poisson}(\lambda)$, it is known that $$ \mathbb{E}[|X-\lambda|] = \frac{2e^{-\lambda} \lambda^{\lfloor \lambda\rfloor +1}}{\lfloor \lambda\rfloor!} \operatorname*{\sim}_{\lambda\to\infty} \sqrt{\frac{2}{\pi}\lambda} $$
Based on this, it is not hard to show, via Jensen's inequality, that if $X,Y\sim\mathrm{Poisson}(\lambda)$ are independent, $$ \mathbb{E}[|X-\lambda|] \leq \mathbb{E}[|X-Y|] \leq 2\cdot \mathbb{E}[|X-\lambda|] $$ which gives that $\mathbb{E}[|X-Y|] = \Theta(\sqrt{\lambda})$ as $\lambda\to\infty$. Moreover, the exact leading constant in the $\Theta(\cdot)$ is between $\sqrt{\frac{2}{\pi}}$ and $2\sqrt{\frac{2}{\pi}}$. One can even refine the upper bound by Cauchy—Schwarz to get $$ \mathbb{E}[|X-\lambda|] \leq \mathbb{E}[|X-Y|] \leq \sqrt{\mathbb{E}[(X-Y)^2]} = \sqrt{2\lambda} $$ so we know that the right asymptotic constant is between $\sqrt{\frac{2}{\pi}}$ and $\sqrt{2}$.
Based on numerical evidence (see below), it looks like the right answer should be $$ \mathbb{E}[|X-Y|] \operatorname*{\sim}_{\lambda\to\infty} \frac{2}{\sqrt{\pi}}\sqrt{\lambda} $$
Is this result known? Is there a proof available somewhere?
