What are standard distance metrics for finite sets of finite sets (not necessarily power sets)? I am particularly interested in metrics which take into account the similarity between the member sets, so that sets containing similar but not identical sets are "closer" than sets containing sets which are disjoint.
For example, let $A = \{ \{1, 2, 3\}, \{0, 4, 5\} \}$, $B = \{ 1,2,3,4\}, \{ 0, 4, 6 \} \} \}$, $ C = \{ \{7, 8\}, \{4, 9\} \} $ and $D = \{ \{1,2,3\}, \{0,4,5\}, \{1, 2\} \}$. I would like $ d(A, B) \ll d(A, C)$ (because the subsets of $A$ and $B$ are more similar than the subsets of $A$ and $C$) and $d(A,B) \ll d(A,D)$ (because $|A| \neq |D|$).
Ideally, the metric $d(A,B)$ should accommodate an arbitrary distance $d'(X,Y)$ for subsets $X \subset A$ and $Y \subset B$ to measure the ``closeness'' of the subsets flexibly.