As you want to obtain the column/row sum, the symmetry and positivity you can start by combinatorics. Fortunately you don't have many possibilities. Let's start with the first row/column. By having zero on the diagonal, the numbers $5$ and $3$ have to be replace by two which sum up to $9$
$$
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 0 & 9 \\
0 & 0 & . \\
9 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 1 & 8 \\
1 & 0 & . \\
8 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 2 & 7 \\
2 & 0 & . \\
7 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 3 & 6 \\
3 & 0 & . \\
6 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 4 & 5 \\
4 & 0 & . \\
5 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 5 & 4 \\
5 & 0 & . \\
4 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 6 & 3 \\
6 & 0 & . \\
3 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 7 & 2 \\
7 & 0 & . \\
2 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix},
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 8 & 1 \\
8 & 0 & . \\
1 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix} \text{ or }
\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 9 & 0 \\
9 & 0 & . \\
0 & . & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix}.
$$
In the next step you want to get $45$ in the second row, which impossible under the constraint that the last row has to sum up to $27$. As there is no such matrix, there can't be any transformation.
EDIT: As you don't allow only natrual number, consider the following case. By this you also see that it is impossible for real nonnegative numbers:
$$\begin{pmatrix}
0 & 9-a & a \\
9-a & 0 & 36+a \\
a & 36+a & 0 \\
\end{pmatrix} \text{ for } a\in[0,9].
$$