Assume that $f:[a,b]\to\mathbb R$ is a continuous function. For $x_0\in (a,b)$ and $\alpha,\beta>0$, we define the (asymetric) difference quotient $$(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0):=\frac{f(x_0+\alpha h)-f(x_0-\beta h)}{(\alpha+\beta)h},\qquad h\neq 0.$$ Given $\alpha,\beta>0$ with $\alpha\neq \beta$, I want to find an example of $f$ such that $$\lim_{h\to0}(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)\ \ \text{exists }\ \ \not\!\!\!\implies\ f'(x_0)\ \ \ \text{exists}.$$
This is a problem that I came up with while I'm preparing my recitation class as a teaching assistant in Analysis (I) course.
If $f'(x_0)$ exists, we can prove that $\lim_{h\to0}(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)=f'(x_0)$ by Taylor's theorem: It follows from $f(x_0+\alpha h)=f(x_0)+\alpha f'(x_0)h+o(h)$ and $f(x_0-\beta h)=f(x_0)-\beta f'(x_0)h+o(h)$ that $(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)=f'(x_0)+o(1)$ as $h\to0$, hence $\lim_{h\to0}(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)=f'(x_0)$.
Now, a natural question appears: What about the reverse problem? If $\alpha=\beta$, then for $f(x)=|x|$ and $x_0=0$ we have $(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(0)=0$ for all $h\neq0$, but $f'(0)$ doesn't exist.
However, for $\alpha\neq \beta$, I failed to find an example. I found that if $\alpha\neq \beta$, and if $f_-'(x_0)$, $f_+'(x_0)$ both exist, then we must have $$\lim_{h\to0}(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)\ \ \text{exists }\ \ \implies\ f'(x_0)\ \ \ \text{exists}.$$ So, for any example in which $\alpha\neq \beta$ and $\lim_{h\to0}(\Delta_{\alpha,\beta,h}f)(x_0)\ \ \text{exists }\ \ \not\!\!\!\implies\ f'(x_0)\ \ \ \text{exists}$, there must be one of $f_-'(x_0)$ and $f_+'(x_0)$ that doesn't exist. (Note that $f$ should be continuous in this post.)
Any help would be appreciated!