Here is a sketch of how I think it would go.
$1.$ First we define the natural numbers using the Peano axioms. The most useful being the principle of mathematical induction. I first came across the Peano axioms and arithmetic within the Peano axioms in the book Analysis $1$ by Terence Tao. If you would like a to read up on these axioms, maybe read the second chapter of this book. It's a short chapter.
$2.$ Define addition for the natural numbers and prove some basic results regarding addition. Such as the commutativity and associativity of addition of natural numbers.
$3.$ State all the relevant axioms for basic set theory. This allows us to define the set of natural numbers $N$.
$4.$ Define functions between sets. Also define the relevant notions of Injections, surjections and bijections.
$5.$ Use bijections to define the cardinality of sets. That is, a set $A$ is said to have cardinality $n$, if there exists a bijection $f : A \to \{1,\dots, n\}$. Where the set $\{1,\dots, n\}$ is a subset of the natural numbers and $n$ is a natural number.
$6.$ Define what a “finite set” is. Namely, a set $A$ is said to be finite if there exist a bijection from $A$ to $\{1,\dots,n\}$. Define what unions, intersections and disjoint sets are. These would be needed to prove the principle.
Now I believe that we have a good enough setup to prove the following theorem.
Theorem: Let $S_1,\dots,S_n$ be finite and pairwise disjoint sets. Then $$|S_1\cup \dots \cup S_n| = |S_1| + \dots + |S_n|.$$
Proof: We will use induction. For $n=1$, the result is true. So, suppose that for some natural number $n$, we have that $$|S_1\cup \dots \cup S_n| = |S_1| + \dots + |S_n|$$
We need to prove that $$|S_1\cup \dots \cup S_n\cup S_{n+1}| = |S_1| + \dots + |S_n| + |S_{n+1}|$$ Where $S_{n+1}$ is also pairwise disjoint to the other sets.
Let $A = S_1 \cup \dots \cup S_n=\{a_1,\dots,a_k\}$. Where $k=|A|$. Let $S_{n+1}=\{s_1,\dots,s_m\}$. Because all the sets are disjoint, we have that $A\cup S_{n+1}=\{a_1,\dots,a_k,s_1,\dots,s_m\}$(this is easy to prove from the definitions). Define a function $f : A\to \{1,\dots,k+m\}$ by $f(a_i)=i$ and $f(s_i)=k+i$. This does indeed define a bijection from $A$ to $\{1,\dots,k+m\}$. Thus, $|A\cup S_{n+1}|=k+m$. From our induction hypothesis, we know that $$|S_1\cup \dots \cup S_{n}|=|S_1|+\dots+|S_n|$$ Thus, we have that $$|S_1\cup \dots \cup S_n\cup S_{n+1}|=k+m=|S_1|+\dots+|S_n|+|S_{n+1}|$$
Hope you find this somewhat helpful! I might have missed a few points here and there. But if you would like to construct your own proof, I would suggest that you read the first three chapters of Analysis $1$ by Terence Tao. That should give you enough background to come up with a proof by yourself.