Let $f(x,y^*)$ denote the joint density of $X$ and $Y^*$. Define $I_{(Y^*>X)}$ to be an indicator random variable such that it equals one when $Y^*>X$ and zero otherwise.
First, we have
$$
E(Y\mid Y\neq 0) = E(Y^*\mid Y^*>X)=E(Y^*\mid I_{(Y^*>X)}=1).
$$
Second, we have
$$
P(I_{(Y^*>X)}=1)=\int_{-\infty}^\infty\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dy^*dx.
$$
and
$$
P(Y^*=y^*,I_{(Y^*>X)}=1)=\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dx.
$$
Third, the expectation can be calculated by
\begin{equation}\label{eq_1}
\frac{\int_{-\infty}^\infty y^*\cdot\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dx dy^*}{\int_{-\infty}^\infty\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dxdy^*}.
\end{equation}
Next, by the property of conditional normal distribution,
$$f(x, y^*) = f(x\mid y^*) \cdot f(y^*),$$
where $f(x\mid y^*)$ is the density of $\mathcal{N}\left(\mu_X+\frac{\sigma_{X}}{\sigma_{Y^*}} \rho\left(y^*-\mu_{Y^*}\right),\left(1-\rho^2\right) \sigma_{X}^2\right)$ and $f(y^*)$ is the density of $Y^*$.
Therefore,
$$
\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dx = \int_{y^*>x} f(x\mid y^*) f(y^*)dx =
CDF_{x\mid y^*}(y^*)\cdot f(y^*),
$$
where $CDF_{x\mid y^*}$ is the CDF of $\mathcal{N}\left(\mu_X+\frac{\sigma_{X}}{\sigma_{Y^*}} \rho\left(y^*-\mu_{Y^*}\right),\left(1-\rho^2\right) \sigma_{X}^2\right)$.
Finally,
$$\frac{\int_{-\infty}^\infty y^*\cdot\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dx dy^*}{\int_{-\infty}^\infty\int_{y^*>x} f(x,y^*)dxdy^*}
=
\frac{\int_{-\infty}^\infty y^*\cdot CDF_{x\mid y^*}(y^*)\cdot f(y^*) dy^*}{\int_{-\infty}^\infty CDF_{x\mid y^*}(y^*)\cdot f(y^*)dy^*},
$$
where recall that $f(y^*)$ is the density of $\mathcal{N}\left(\mu_{Y^*}, \sigma_{Y^*}^2\right)$.