So here's an approach lets consider the map $t(x): \mathbb{Z}[\sqrt{2}] \rightarrow \mathbb{Z}[\sqrt{2}]$ given by $t(x+y\sqrt{2}) = x-y\sqrt{2}$. Translated into casual speak this is a function which accepts something of the form $x+y\sqrt{2}$ and outputs $x-y\sqrt{2}$. So for example $t(1+\sqrt{2}) = 1-\sqrt{2}$. $t(5-2\sqrt{2}) = 5+2\sqrt{2}$ etc...
Now unless you have experience with these things, you might be quite surprised to know that $t(a+b) = t(a) + t(b)$ and $t(ab) = t(a)t(b)$ (you can check this manually, and i'll add it to the answer in a bit). A corollary of the second identity is that $t(a^2) = t(a)*t(a) = t(a)^2$ and more generally $t(a^n) = t(a)^n$
It then follows that if
$$ (1+\sqrt{2})^{2020} = a + b\sqrt{2}$$
Then:
$$ t((1+\sqrt{2})^{2020}) = t(a + b\sqrt{2})$$
So we then have on the left hand side:
$t((1+\sqrt{2})^{2020}) = t(1+\sqrt{2})^{2020} = (1-\sqrt{2})^{2020}$
and on the right hand side:
$t(a+b\sqrt{2}) = a-b\sqrt{2}$
So putting it all together, if
$$ t((1+\sqrt{2})^{2020}) = t(a + b\sqrt{2})$$
Then:
$$ (1-\sqrt{2})^{2020} = a-b\sqrt{2} $$
Now recall the observation that
$$a-2b^2 = (a-b\sqrt{2})(a+b\sqrt{2})$$
So then it must be that
$$ a- 2b^2 = (1-\sqrt{2})^{2020} (1+\sqrt{2})^{2020} = (1 - 2)^{2020} = (-1)^{2020} = 1$$
For the advanced reader: we say that $t(x)$ is a Ring Automorphism of $\mathbb{Z}[\sqrt{2}]$ and more specifically a Ring Automorphism that fixes $\mathbb{Z}$. In simpler terms "it's the same kind of thing as complex conjugation".