To elaborate on user1551’s comment : since $A$ is an element of $SO_3$, it is a
rotation around an axis. Let $\overrightarrow{k}=(k_1,k_2,k_3)$ be a directing vector for the axis and call $\theta$ the angle.
Then, Rodrigues’ formula (proved on Wikipedia) tells us
that for any vector $\overrightarrow{x}$ ,
$$
A\overrightarrow{x}=(\cos(\theta))\overrightarrow{x}+
(\sin(\theta))(\overrightarrow{k} \wedge \overrightarrow{x})+
(1-\cos(\theta))(\overrightarrow{k}.\overrightarrow{x}) \overrightarrow{k} \tag{1}
$$
And hence
$$
A=\left(
\begin{array}{ccc}
\cos(\theta) & 0 & 0 \\
0 & \cos(\theta) & 0 \\
0 & 0 & \cos(\theta) \\
\end{array}
\right)
+
\left(
\begin{array}{ccc}
& -k_3\sin(\theta) & k_2\sin(\theta) \\
k_3\sin(\theta) & 0 & -k_1\sin(\theta) \\
-k_2\sin(\theta) & k_1\sin(\theta) & 0 \\
\end{array}
\right)
+
\left(
\begin{array}{ccc}
k_1^2(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_1k_2(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_1k_3(1-\cos(\theta)) \\
k_1k_2(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_2^2(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_2k_3(1-\cos(\theta)) \\
k_1k_3(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_2k_3(1-\cos(\theta)) & k_3^2(1-\cos(\theta)) \\
\end{array}
\right) \tag{2}
$$
We deduce that for $i\neq j$,
$$
a_{ij}+a_{ji}=2k_ik_j(1-\cos(\theta)), \text{so} \
\frac{1}{a_{ij}+a_{ji}}=\lambda k_{6-(i+j)} \tag{3}
$$
where $\lambda$ is the constant $\frac{k_1k_2k_3}{2(1-\cos(\theta))}$. The result is now clear.