I have a problem about finding the metric of a surface defined by $x=\rho\cos\varphi,\ y=\rho\sin\varphi,\ z=\rho^2$, embedded into $\mathbb{R}^3$, where $ds^2=dx^2+dy^2+dz^2$.
I have literally no idea how to do this. Worse perhaps, is I find the expression $ds^2=dx^2+dy^2+dz^2$ hopelessly meaningless, because I can't understand any precise meaning of $ds, dx$ etc. I understand it's supposed to capture the nature of the pythagorean theorem as used to calculate distances in 3D and generalise it, but what exactly $dx$ is precisely escapes me. "A small distance" or "A small change" don't do it for me; it's apparently being used to define distances so calling it a small distance is clearly circular, and what exactly makes a small change? How do you calculate with such quantities? How do you know how the expression for $ds^2$ is going to change when you change coordinates? (These are questions I feel I really shouldn't have to ask, but my lecturer is very sporadic, unclear, and provides very few resources, and feel quite stuck.)
I am looking for an explanation or some resources to enlighten me as to what I should understand by these quantities/expressions, and some hopefully some help with how I would go about finding the metric of the paraboloid above.
I would also appreciate a recommendation of a good text for a first course on differential geometry of curves and surfaces to self-study from.
Thanks in advance.