As shown in the figure , $ABCD$ is a trapezoid,$AD\parallel BC$ , $\angle C=45^{\circ}$, $AB=AD=4$ ,$E$ is a point on the line $DA$ , $EF\perp BE$ and $AB\perp AD$.
Show: $BE=EF$.

As shown in the figure , $ABCD$ is a trapezoid,$AD\parallel BC$ , $\angle C=45^{\circ}$, $AB=AD=4$ ,$E$ is a point on the line $DA$ , $EF\perp BE$ and $AB\perp AD$.
Show: $BE=EF$.

First as mathh suggested, you need $AD \perp BC$ (which is part of the conclusion), or else your conclusion need not actually be true. This is because you can construct a diagram with your given conditions without the extra condition; however, $BE = EF$ also implies $AD \perp BC$ given your diagram.
Since we know $\triangle BEF$ is a right triangle, it suffices to show $\angle EBF = 45^{\circ}$.
Draw the line $BD$, then $\triangle ABD$ is a right triangle, and since it is isosceles we know $\angle ABD = 45^{\circ}$, so $\angle DBC = 45^{\circ}$ as well. Then $\triangle DBC$ is a right triangle as well. Since the opposite angles of the quadrilateral $BEFD$ add to $180^{\circ}$ we know it is cyclic.
So $\angle EBF = \angle EDF$ which is equal to $\angle C = 45^{\circ}$ (since $AD$ and $BC$ are parallel), and we are done.