Here is an alternative, shorter, but calculus based solution. The system has a unique solution only when the plane and the surface are tangent. When this occurs the two surfaces have the same normal direction.
A normal to the plane is $(1,-2,1)$. The normal to $f=xy+xz+yz$ is given by the gradient,
$(\frac{f}{dx} ,\frac{f}{dy} ,\frac{f}{dz})=(y+z, x+z, x+y )$ so we have the system of equations
$$y+z=\beta$$
$$x+z=-2\beta$$
$$x+y=\beta.$$
Solving we have
$$x=-\beta$$
$$y=2\beta$$
$$z=-\beta.$$
If we substitute these into the original equations we get,
$$-6\beta=2\alpha$$
$$-9\beta^2=3\alpha -4$$
which gives the equation for $\beta$,
$$9\beta^2-9\beta-4=0$$
which factors
$$(3\beta+1)(3\beta-4)=0$$
so $\beta=\frac{4}{3}, -\frac{1}{3}$ and
$$\alpha=-3\beta=-4, 1$$
Which (thankfully) is the same obtained by the other methods.
We also have the unique solutions in these cases,
$$(-\frac{4}{3}, \frac{8}{3}, -\frac{4}{3})$$ and
$$(\frac{1}{3}, -\frac{2}{3}, \frac{1}{3})$$