just to look at a slightly less detailed level
one way of seeing a topology (on a set $X$) is in terms of a basis of open sets. the open sets defined by a basis $B$ are arbitrary unions of sets belonging to the basis.
suppose you have two topologies for $X$ with bases $B_1$ and $B_2$. then the topologies are equivalent if and only if the bases interpenetrate - in the sense that for any $b_1 \in B_1$ we can find a $b_2 \in B_2$ such that $b_2 \subset b_1$ and vice versa.
in metric spaces we define the topology in terms of a basis of open balls of arbitrary small radius. so given a $b_1$ we may join with Hamlet's dyslexic brother in asking "$b_2$ or not $b_2$? that is the question!" (and vice versa, of course)