Consider these definitions:
- Asymmetric relation: Given a set $S$ and a dyadic relation $R \in S\times S$, $R$ is asymmetric if it is never the case that for any ordered pair $(x, y)$ in $R$, the pair $(y, x)$ is in $R$.
As a consequence of this definition, any pair $(x,y)$ where $x=y$ is forbidden in an asymmetric relation. That is, it is always irreflexive.
- Antisymmetric relation: Given a set $S$ and a dyadic relation $R \in S\times S$, $R$ is antisymmetric if, whenever $(x, y)$ and $(y, x)$ are in $R$, then it is necessarily the the case that $x=y$.
A relation is asymmetric if and only if it is both irreflexive and (vacuously) antisymmetric.
- Diagonal or identity relation: $\{(x, y) | x,y \in S \land x = y\}$. It is always reflexive $-$ indeed, it is the reflexive closure of the empty relation.
You can always generate a "maximal antisymmetric closure" of an asymmetric relation in $S\times S$ by making the union of that asymmetric relation with the diagonal relation in $S\times S$. The result is a reflexive antisymmetric relation $-$ which is asymmetric if and only if $S$ is empty (since that relation would have to be simultaneously irreflexive and reflexive).