Let's assume that you want to measure the amount of the slope between two points on the function $f(x)$, which are $f(x)$ and $f(x+h)$. This is defined as: $$M(h)=\dfrac{f(x+h)-f(x)}{h}$$. $M$ is actually the slope of the secant line which joins the points $(x,f(x))$ and $(x+h,f(x+h))$. Notice that, when we determine a fixed $x$ value, $M(h)$ is a function of $h$ actually, when you plug in an arbitrary $h$ into it, it returns the slope of the secant line between $(x,f(x))$ and $(x+h,f(x+h))$.
Now, think that you want to measure the slope of the tangent line which only touches $(x,f(x))$. Intuitively, one wishes to plug $h=0$ into $M(h)$ and get the slope eventually. But this is not possible since $M(h)$ is not defined at $h=0$: This causes a division by zero. But still, we can make a very educated guess about the slope of the tangent: If the function $M(h)$ is well behaving around $h=0$, which means that the value of $M(h)$ gets closer and closer to a certain value, say, $L$, as $h$ gets closer to $0$, we say that the limit of $M(h)$ as $h \to 0$ is $L$. More precisely, it is $\lim_{h \to 0} M(h) = L$. If $L$ does really satisfy the definition of limit at $h=0$ then it is the "most natural" value which we can fill into $M(0)$, more technically, it is the value which ensures the continuity of the function $M(h)$ at $h=0$.
For this reason, we can pick $L$ as our slope for the tangent of the function at $(x,f(x))$. More rigorously, it is the value
$$\lim_{h \to 0}\dfrac{f(x+h)-f(x)}{h}$$ and it is derivative of the function $f(x)$ at the point $(x,f(x))$. Note that if this limit does not exist ($M(h)$ is not well behaving around $h=0$), then we say that the derivative does not exist at that $x$.
This is a kind of mixed definition of the derivative, which has both analytic and geometrical interpretation in it. Hope it helps.
Loosely speaking, a derivative can be thought of as how much one quantity is changing in response to changes in some other quantity"I understand nothing what is written here?"this is simple to understand but isn't that a just a function's briefing. My problem is apart form it. :) – Ahmad Sep 19 '14 at 16:34