Well the first part: $$\int_{\partial B_p}\frac{\partial u}{\partial \nu}\,ds=\int_{B_p}\Delta u\,dx=0$$ (I will leave out the brackets for ease of typing) follows directly from the divergence theorem (also called Gauss's Theorem), which in a nutshell is as follows for $U\subset\Bbb R^n$, and some vector field $F$:
$\int_{U}\nabla\cdot F\,dx=\int_{\partial U}F\cdot \nu\,ds$, where $\nu$ is the unit outward normal to $U$. Taking into account that $\Delta u=\nabla\cdot(\nabla u)$, we can see that:
$\int_{B_p}\Delta u\,dx = \int_{B_p}\nabla\cdot(\nabla u)\,dx = \int_{\partial B_p}\nabla u\cdot\nu\,ds$ now $\nabla u\cdot\nu=\frac{\partial u}{\partial\nu}$ (these are just two different notations for the same thing).