definitions
$g(a,b) = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{1}{a^n+b^n}}$
$f(x,r) = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{x^n}{1+r^n}}$
lemma 1
$ g(a,b) = f(\frac{1}{a},\frac{b}{a})$
Proof: simple subsitution
lemma 2
$ f(x,r) + f(x \cdot r, r) = \frac{x}{1-x} $
Proof
$ = f(x,r) + f(x \cdot r, r) $
$ = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{x^n}{1+r^n}} + \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{(x \cdot r)^n}{1+r^n}} $
$ = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{(\frac{x^n}{1+r^n} + \frac{(x \cdot r)^n}{1+r^n})} $
$ = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{x^n+(x \cdot r)^n}{1+r^n}} $
$ = \sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{x^n(1 + r^n)}{1+r^n}} $
$ = -x^0 + \sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{x^n} $
$ = \frac{1}{1-x} - 1 $
$ = \frac{x}{1-x} $
lemma 3
$f(x,r) = (-1)^{(2^N)}f(x \cdot r^{(2^N)},r) + \sum_{n=0}^{2^N-1}{(-1)^n\frac{r^nx}{1-r^nx}} $
Proof
$ f(x,r) + f(x \cdot r, r) = \frac{x}{1-x} $
$ f(x,r) = \frac{x}{1-x} - f(x \cdot r, r) $
$ f(x,r) = \frac{x}{1-x} - \frac{rx}{1-rx} + f(x \cdot r^2 ,r) $
Each additional subsitution yields double the terms, after $N$ subsitutions we achieve the result
for $r<1$ this equation simplifies to $f(x,r) = \sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{(-1)^n\frac{r^nx}{1-r^nx}}$
lemma 4
$ f(x,r) = \frac{1}{log(r^2)}(\psi_{r^2}(log_{r^2}(x)) - \psi_{r^2}(log_{r^2}(x \cdot r)))$
Proof
$ = \frac{1}{log(r^2)} \left(
-log(1 - r^2) +
log(r^2)\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x))}}{1-(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x))}}} - \left(
-log(1 - r^2) +
log(r^2)\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x\cdot r))}}{1-(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x\cdot r))}}}
\right)
\right)$
$ = \left(
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x))}}{1-(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x))}}} -
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x\cdot r))}}{1-(r^2)^{(n+log_{r^2}(x\cdot r))}}}
\right)$
$ = \left(
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^n \cdot (x) }{1-(r^2)^n \cdot (x) }} -
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{(r^2)^n \cdot (x\cdot r) }{1- (r^2)^n \cdot (x \cdot r) }}
\right)$
$ = \left(
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{r^{2n}x }{1-r^{2n}x }} -
\sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{\frac{r^{2n+1}x }{1- r^{2n+1}x }}
\right)$
$ = \sum_{n=0}^{\infty}{(-1)^n\frac{r^nx}{1-r^nx}}$
Solution
$\sum_{n=1}^{\infty}{\frac{1}{a^n+b^n}} = \frac{
\psi_{\frac{a}{b}^2}(-log_{\frac{a}{b}^2}(a)) -
\psi_{\frac{a}{b}^2}(log_{\frac{a}{b}^2}(b/a^2)
}{2(log(b)-log(a))}$
$ = \frac{
\psi_{r^2}(-log_{r^2}(a)) -
\psi_{r^2}(log_{r^2}(r/a))
}{2(log(r))}, r=b/a$
Assumptions
in most it is assumed that $x$ and $r$ are positive and smaller than one however if $a>b>1$ this is always the case.
Final notes
the final result could probably be further simplified and made symmetrical, I unfortunately lack the skills to do so.
References:
[q-PolyGamma function] http://mathworld.wolfram.com/q-PolygammaFunction.html
$$ \displaystyle{as ;{m \to \infty}},\left({ (a+b-1)\sum_{n=1}^m \frac{1}{0^n+(a+b)^n}\to 1^-}\right)$$
$$ \displaystyle{as ;{m \to \infty}},\left({ (a+b-2)\sum_{n=1}^m \frac{1}{((a+b)/2)^n+((a+b)/2)^n}\to 1^-}\right)$$
– James Arathoon Jun 08 '18 at 13:14